Forgiveness is not something you do. It is a state of being that when offered brings forth the truth of who you are. - Iyanla Vanzant
"You don't have to be angry because you were not recognized or acknowledged as a child. No matter how hard you tried or how well you did, no one noticed. It may have seemed as if those who were a little better, a little bigger, a little smarter got all the attention. That may be true, but you don't have to be mad about that today. You don't have to be angry because the love you needed or wanted or sometimes demanded wasn't there for you. You were probably made to feel as if what you thought, what you knew, what you felt was not important. But, there is no reason to still be mad about it today.
As children, few of us were allowed to express anger. When we experienced anger, we had
to stuff it, camouflage it or deny it. In essence, we held on to it. That anger grew with us into habits, attitudes, beliefs, perceptions and decisions. Anger makes us anxious and impatient. Angry people are, "See, I told you so!" people. They can also be, "I knew this would happen!" people. They are always looking for reasons to be angry and ways to express the anger they have been holding.
to stuff it, camouflage it or deny it. In essence, we held on to it. That anger grew with us into habits, attitudes, beliefs, perceptions and decisions. Anger makes us anxious and impatient. Angry people are, "See, I told you so!" people. They can also be, "I knew this would happen!" people. They are always looking for reasons to be angry and ways to express the anger they have been holding.
If you feel left out, unnoticed, unappreciated or you feel the need to prove yourself, chances are you have some unexpressed childhood anger. If you love to compete and hate to lose, if you are a yeller, a hitter and perhaps a drinker, it may be time for you to deal with your anger.
Until today, you may not have realized you were angry or understood why you are angry. Just for today, set an intention to heal any unexpressed anger that may be present in your life. Go to a quiet place with pen and paper. Take a few deep breaths. Ask your anger to speak to you. Write down the thoughts. Write about the feelings. When you are finished, forgive yourself for holding on to the anger for so long. Then ask the Holy Spirit to transform the anger into a passion for life."
"Today, I am devoted to healing unresolved and unexpressed anger!"
source: Vanzant, Iyanla. "June: Forgiveness." Until Today!: Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind. New York: Simon & Schuster, 2001. June 27. Print.
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